Kristin, thank you for for this thoughtful and genuine post. I have one child. So it’s even easier, I think, to put all my hopes into that one child. He should like gymnastics and the outdoors (because I do). He should, he should, he should….I need to stop! As Khalil Gibran so eloquently stated, “your children are not your children. they are the sons and the daughters of Life’s longing for itself. They come through you but are not from you. And though they are with you, they belong not to you”